Transforming from a Butch, Controlling B*tch in the bedroom, to a sweet, submissive Slut for your husband…

Okay, just when you thought my blog was going to be another boring Christian parenting blog…

I am so excited to have just partaken of the wisdom of Sunshine Mary’s newest post, that it has inspired me to (attempt) to write the female counterpart to said post, in hopes that it help wives in the clutches of feminism or other forms of control to just let the f*ck go, for heaven’s sake, and have the best married sex possible!  Too many women are not enjoying marriage, or married sex, and are also making miserable, deprived husbands in the process by simply failing to retrain their brains in the area of human sexuality.  The best sex is not the kind you have been taught about in the movies, sister…

Sunshine Mary’s post has great tips for men on how to dominate their wives in the bedroom.  Commenter Tom, brings another angle to the conversation, however, as he is concerned that the current state of affairs legally leaves men no wiggle room to dominate their wives:

A woman/wife only needs to be asked “has he every told you what to do sexually, and you did it even when you didn’t really WANT to?”…. and BANG – he’s guilty of “raping” his own wife. EVEN IF SHE WAS TOTALLY WILLING, a women can “change her mind” the next day and claim “revokable consent”.

Yes really.

So your message comes in a time where women are continually marching and screaming for “independence” and NOT being told what to do. It’s simply NOT POSSIBLE for a man to have ANY control in his marriage, or assume the control and dominance over his wife which you so desperately crave.

 

My reply was simply this:  a man has got to establish dominance in the relationship before he attempts domination in the bedroom.  Here’s where this post picks up.  Ladies, you have the power in submission to facilitate your husband’s dominance in (and out) of the bedroom.

Here are my straightforward suggestions to ladies ( read: wives, this is for married folks, okay?) who are just plain tired of being controlling, butch bitches in the bedroom and want desperately to transform into sweet, submissive sluts for their husband’s eyes only:

  • If your girlfriends at church, or coffee hour, or Sunday Brunch, or wherever, are in the nasty habit of husband-bashing when they get together with you, CUT OFF all contact with them now.  Yes, I said NOW.  Think of their friendship as a dead and withered branch that needs to be cut off at thrown into the fire to be burned.  Think of them as destruction to your marriage and family.  DO IT.  (You can still talk about the weather, but that’s IT!)
  • Purpose in your mind and heart today to never, ever, ever again pick up the phone to call your mother, your sister or your MIL to discuss the faults of your husband.  Just. Stop. It. I don’t care how nasty the fight was, or what a jerk he was last night, or how insensitive he is when you’re on your period.  Stop it.
  • DO NOT, under any circumstances, continue or begin to give your husband any advice that he does not solicit.  Do not be tempted to give him advice about his business, his job, how he’s caring for the children, how he drives, how he puts away dishes…BITE YOUR TONGUE, WOMAN!
  • If you are prone to vindictiveness or whiny female behavior whereby you seek sympathy from other women/men/strangers/coworkers about how “bad” your husband is/treats you:  purpose in your mind right now that you will stop thinking and behaving this way.  You are not a victim of men.  You are a woman.  You were made as a gift from God TO your husband.  Know your place.  Your husband is not perfect; he is a human being.  Get over any self-righteousness in you that requires sympathy for having to deal with a “big, bad, m-a-n”. 
  • Verbally thank God for your husband often.  Verbally thank your husband for his love and provision, often.
  • Say “Honey, do you think you could _______________, please?” each and every time you need something from him.  I don’t care if you just need to pee and you want him to hold the baby, ask this way.
  • Ask him how he likes your makeup.  Wear it that way.
  • Ask him how he likes your hair.  Wear it that way, even if you don’t like it much and you think it makes you look ugly.  He will tell you what to correct. If it’s short, and he wants it long, grow it, Girl!
  • Stop wearing blue jeans.  (Unless, by some off chance, your husband loves them on you.)
  • If you wear pants, get some skirts and wear nothing but skirts for a week.  You can always switch back, but this helps you behave more femininely and less dominantly as you have to adjust yourself physically.  Ask your husband if he prefers skirts to pants and honor his wishes.
  • Start Sexting your husband daily.  Give him a little porn library of his own wife on his smart phone.
  • Go on Youtube and watch some teaching videos for striptease dance.  Seriously.  Learn how to dance like a stripper.  Learn a table routine, learn a floor routine.  Implement a few of the moves whenever the opportunity presents itself.  You need to be his little private T*tty Dancer.
  • Learn how to give better head.  If you hate giving head, pray to God that you start liking it.
  • Position yourself lower than him physically whenever the opportunity arises:  sit on the floor by his legs if he’s up in his favorite chair, etc.  Lean into him on the sofa. Take his arm in public.
  • When he desires you, give yourself to him.  GIVE YOURSELF.  Do not be afraid.  He is your husband.  Do not be afraid of anything.  Trust that your husband has your best interests in mind, no matter what.  This is the man that loves you; the one man who really wants you to receive his love and receive him.  ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN.

IF YOU DO NOTHING ELSE, DO THIS:  Purpose in your mind to read the Fifth Chapter of the Book of Ephesians whenever possible.  Even as Christian women, we have been saturated with feminist ideals in church for much of our lives.  We must renew our minds by reading the pure Word of God and asking the Spirit of the Lord to apply this to our mind.  Begin to see your husband as your lord.  Not your Lord Jesus, of course, but your earthly lord.  It helps to say “Sir?” if he asks you something, and you don’t hear or understand.  This is the type of retraining of the brain I am talking about.  It is like Boot Camp  for the female brain, because we have been taught otherwise:  we have been taught to dominate men and make them subject to us, even in Christian marriage.  PURPOSE IN YOUR MIND to see him as your lord.  You know his faults better than anyone, but PURPOSE IN YOUR MIND not to focus on them.  Think upon what is good in him.  Think upon his best side.  Speak to him in this way, as though you admire him.  Fake it  ‘till you make it, because you will make it if you are sincere in pursuing Christ for this type of marriage relationship.

Dear woman of God, if you do these things, you will have made a fine foundation available for your husband to build upon as the dominant head of every portion of your marriage relationship. And all husbands love head. ( And walking in dominant headship.)

Blessings!

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16 thoughts on “Transforming from a Butch, Controlling B*tch in the bedroom, to a sweet, submissive Slut for your husband…

  1. The strip tease moves wouldn’t work for many guys. They’d view it as condescending. What a woman should also do is Kegels against resistance and develop her inner pelvic muscles. After a while that will definitely spice up your marriage.

    ste: That’s an excellent suggestion. Many men are reluctant to mention that their woman needs to keep herself “fit” in the pelvic floor area as well as the rest of her body! (smile). Really? Condescending? That is surprising to me. Maybe it’s just something my husband likes – a fantasy. To each his own!

    Thanks for visiting/commenting!

    • It is common today to hear of women complaining about how small and unsatisfying most men’s penises are. Leaving aside that this is just about the most crushingly humiliating thing any woman can say to a man and speaks volumes about how astoundingly callous women have become (to say nothing of their shamelessness), it overlooks the blindingly obvious.

      The size of a man’s erect penis is pretty much fixed. There is nothing he can do about it. It’s not his fault — it’s just the way that he was made. The penis changes size based on fluid dynamics: it is engorged until it can contain no more blood. And that’s it. Should a woman have a problem with this, then she should take it up with God, since it’s His handiwork she’s disdaining.

      A woman’s vagina, however, is a different beast altogether. It is a tube of solid muscle. …And with the right exercise and diet, muscle mass and size can be increased. Hence the dimensions of a woman’s vagina are not fixed in the way that those of a man’s penis are. She has between her legs an amazingly designed organ which she can train to fit any man like a glove. God, by His Grace, made her this way: she was truly made for man. …Not the other way around.

      Men are constantly tormented about their penile size: yet, Scripturally speaking, they should not be the ones worrying. Indeed, if anything, it should be the women who should worry about their own size, since they actually have the ability to do something about it.

      Satan has used the very worst women (who of course belong to him) to make men feel immensely insecure about being men. He has thus got men sinning and telling lies about their size, buying fraudulent “penis pills”, and even undergoing expensive and largely useless surgery in desperation. If anything, it should be women who are spending money on tightening up — since vaginal creams are safer than penis pills and even vaginaplasty is simpler, less disfiguring and far more effective than “penis extensions” are.

      The long and the short of it (pun fully intended) is that if the male penis really is so bad, then God has done a terrible job. So is He a bungler? What if there’s nothing wrong with the penis — or the vagina? What if the fault instead lies with us and our attitude?

      Again, it’s immensely politically incorrect to point this out, but The Bible says that man was not created for woman, but woman for man. If we believe that, then this should inform every corner of our understanding about male and female relationships: from the psychological and emotional side, right through to the physical side. Christian women should delight in the fact that God created them for man, just as men should be honoured that God gave them such a gift.

      Satisfying penis-in-vagina sex is far more important than fellatio — fellatio is a cheap and worldly substitute. If God had wanted the woman to suck her husband off, then He would have made semen taste like wine. God created the gag-reflex, and made semen so unpalatable for a reason. (And semen isn’t “disgusting”: it simply has a proper place.) And our conscience objects to it: it says in Scripture that Joseph didn’t know Mary until after Jesus was born — I imagine most Christians would be highly uncomfortable with the idea of Mary down on her knees, “giving head”. …Or Joseph asking her to. (And the passages in Song of Songs which talk about “tasting fruit” are poetic, and open to a myriad of interpretations — though they’re clearly erotic.)

      In truth, fellatio is just plain lazy, and is for the sluts of the world who are too idle and careless to tighten themselves up: a tight vagina is more satisfying to a man’s penis than any mouth (because God made the vagina expressly for this purpose). Christian women should be mindful of this (despite what is said on sites which purport to be “Christian”): consider what God has created, what He has said in His Word, and deduce therefrom what He intended.

      Satan has deceived men about love, sex, and marriage, and has used their perennial Achilles’ Heel — women — to do so. …Just as he has done throughout Scripture: modern men are fools compared to Solomon, yet even Solomon was brought to ruin through pagan women, just as Israel as a whole had been in the wilderness. Christian women should see this, expose it, and fight it.

      …So girls, the next time you hear a woman complaining about or scoffing at her man’s equipment, tell her plainly that the inadequacy is actually hers, and that were she not such an ungrateful lazy slut, she would get exercising and tighten herself up properly. …Making sure to quote 1 Corinthians 11:9 to her, of course. 😉

      Song, how about making a post out of this, and telling your friends in the Christian ‘sphere?

      • I don’t know whether you’ve had any further thoughts on the above, but as I understand, it really is a serious issue for guys. …And one with which women could help immensely, if they chose to. Check out this article from a couple of years back — it effectively shows how feminism has converged with our godless consumerism, and it’s vile. It seems that men are afraid to speak out about their humiliation and deep hurts, as doing so only brings them further ridicule (and are painfully aware that their penile size is something about which they can do almost nothing). It’s amazing how heartless our society is towards ordinary men. It’s a sort-of sadistic version of the Apex Fallacy: the porno-studs at the top don’t worry, so therefore all the others must be fine too, and we can treat them any way we want.

        Ours is a culture which turns the Bible upside-down. Today, the account in Ezekiel 23 would be popular entertainment — a sex-farce or even a romantic comedy — so shameless and wicked have Western women become. The most woeful part of the whole passage, verse 20, where God shows just how low Judah has sunk, would today be celebrated as evidence of “female emancipation” (perhaps set to music by a base R ‘n B slut or a skanky female rapper). Shame (let alone morality or femininity) is officially dead in the West. We live in very evil times.

        I hope that this is food for thought, Song. The church can’t bring itself to expose a foul, shameless slut for what she is, nor to stand up and call women to treat men right. We live in a culture which effectively says that man was made for woman, and it’s clear to me that men see their self-worth as being inextricably bound up with their ability to satisfy a woman sexually (from what I can tell, I think that, in ascending order of importance, being able to provide for, protect and ‘perform’ with a woman — exclusively — are what makes a man feel that he is a man — and Satan & his army of harpies are attacking each of these). The message from the culture is poison to the minds of men (and even young boys), but their plight is never mentioned — other than as a bit of a joke. (Whereas concern over female “self esteem” and “self image” is now all but an industry in itself.)

        Who will stick up for them? I hope we can…

        (P.S. I hope I haven’t derailed your thread: it’s an oldie, so it’s not as though there was an ongoing discussion I’ve hijacked! …But when you speak in the title of the post of “butch, controlling, b*itches”, I think so much of the problem is the stuff we — even as Christians — consciously or subconsciously absorb from the culture, and the ideas which are now prevalent in it.)

      • Hello, 1 Corin. 11:9:

        Your comments were sitting in Moderation because when there are more than three links in a post, it automatically sends them to Moderation. Sorry! I did not notice until I read your note! (apologies).

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  4. You tell truth. I pray the man claims his benevolent position of leadership and learns to calm these tendencies in his woman while assuring her of his love and ability to protect her. The man must establish and maintain the frame because then he does not demonstrate weakness when occasionally he too fails in his mission.

  5. Good post. I disagree that a man can’t start with dominating in the bedroom in some cases, though. The anecdote I shared on my blog (“Get on your knees”) is indeed what happened to start the ball rolling for us.

    I’m adding you to my blogroll!

    STE: Thank you! Thank you for commenting and adding me to your blogroll; when I get this WordPress thing down, I can add people’s blogs – definitely yours!

    • songtwoeleven, nice post. I hope you don’t mind me commenting here.

      Not ALL men like “head”. I only started requiring it of my wife quite late in our marriage. I must say too that for a lot of men, it is about the feeling of power as much as the physical aspect.

      Anyway, thanks Ladies for these posts. They must encourage a lot of husbands – and wives.

      STE: Thank you, David. You are welcome to comment here. I think I should have said that “many men” like head, instead. (smile). My husband says that it is definitely a power/dominance thing for him. It is more enjoyable because of this aspect when he cannot have actual PiV sex.

      • If the man isn’t enjoying it, 1) he needs to chill out and let it happen and 2)she needs to work on her technique!

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