My husband works predominantly within retail locations in outside sales and marketing with his business. He is accustomed to husband’s desires to purchase one of his products or services being overridden by overly aggressive wives who clearly wear the pants in the family, so to speak…but today’s event takes the cake.
A man decided to purchase a service my husband was offering; a service that would save a lot of money for this man and his family. Thus, the man began to make the purchase, and then suddenly declared, “Oh, I have to talk to my wife.” Uh oh.
He returned, sans wife, literally cursing his wife in front of my husband! Cursing his wife, out loud, in a retail facility, to my husband, another man, because she said “no” – this man was utterly defeated, totally emasculated and feeling like a trapped lion or a prisoner of his own making in being married to this woman, and then going and ASKING her permission!
In any event, my husband had never seen anything like this before in all his experience with the public. We both agreed when I spoke to him on the phone that this particular husband should have made the money-saving purchase anyway, and told his wife that he did it, and she could just deal with it. After all, what’s she going to do to him? Castrate him further? Leave him (God help him, it might be a blessing!)? Cancel his purchase made in his name only?
We once had a friend, long since divorced, who used to refer to his wife as The Warden. I have decided that women are now The Wardens of retail…nobody makes a purchase without their express consent…
What has your experience been, husbands? Are you free to make purchases without your wife’s “consent?” Do you invite this kind of frustration by asking for permission to buy things that are actually a bargain? Have you seen other men experiencing this kind of public Lorena-Bobbitting? Ladies, have you seen this in public? Is this unusual where you live, or the norm?