How can I help my husband deal with serious sh*t-testing from unrelated women at work?
Some background is necessary:
My husband and I were both total feminists until about ten years ago. We’re definitely unplugged, so to speak…but it is still a process in our thinking in certain areas. Mister has natural “game” (he calls his Game “mojo”), but he acts very differently with me when I get occasionally unruly and fitness test him than he does with women in the workplace when they constantly do the same. Obviously, when a man is at home in his castle and his wife is being a pain in the arse, it is easier to deal with her than it is to deal with some “empowered” chick in the workplace who can go cry on any number of willing shoulders: her “boss”; HR (almost entirely composed of females), some lawyer…you get the picture. So, I think it is a desire to “just keep the peace” so he can “just keep his JOB” that keeps my husband from trying to run any game on these out-of-control females he seems to KEEP encountering. It really is amazing; the more I read and learn about the nature of women (myself included) and the nature of our flesh (as women), the more I am astounded at what women get away with these days.
In any event, more background. Mister works in retail locations with permission from corporate sponsors under contract to offer satellite television and other entertainment media to customers in the retail stores. Mister is self-employed; he is incorporated. However, without the contracts from the corporate sponsors (should he anger them or the retailer), he really doesn’t have a storefront in which to offer his products. So, as a sales professional, he is well-served to keep his customers happy: the sponsors, the retailers, and the retail customers.
However, Mister has encountered nothing but problems with females since he started this business! Truly amazing. One of them, a former employee, actually sued him (and lost in a huge way) in court. Her husband backed her; mind you, her husband was an unemployed milquetoast. This woman engaged in verbal diarrhea about her sex life (or lack thereof) with her own husband in my husband’s ear incessantly. When he fired her, she sued, but not for “sexual harassment” – rather, for payroll violations. She was sleeping in her car during work hours. Amazing.
Other women have connived and manipulated him and attempted to get him to hire them illegally. One woman in a retailer who was a retail employee created all sorts of lies about my Mister and had him thrown out of the retailer for “being too aggressive” with “her” customers. Gads. This last episode almost cost him his career; thankfully, we moved across the state to a new market with new retailers. Several women have connived and manipulated and gained support from their male coworkers in trying to complain to their retail managers and have my husband thrown out of stores.
I should mention that my husband is one of the best in the Nation at his job. Several times he has been the best in the Nation. He is a dynamic man and an excellent speaker and persuader. At his previous sales job, he broke a National record for sales and average sale which still stands five years later – no one has come close to touching it. He is aggressive, he is dominant, he is charismatic, he is charming in speech and persona, he is extremely quick-witted verbally, and women have only to spend about three minutes with him to see that he is naturally Alpha in personality and behavior. He is middle-aged, bald and in above-average physical shape for his age – and he draws women like a freaking magnet. Like moths to a flame they flutter to him, but within days they are screaming about his “aggression” being too much, his personality being “too controlling” and basically b*tching about everything they LOVE about him. Yes, I have been one of them early in our marriage (repentant smile).
Which brings me to our latest event: the store my husband just opened (retailer which allows him to sell there) is small. The management loves him. The employees are lazy, due to being bored out of their minds in a small store during a down season. The store employees are also a bit apathetic due to the fact that they are non-commissioned; they earn a wage regardless of sales volume. Mister only eats if he sells; he is straight commission. This makes him a bit more aggressive.
A female employee has started calling Mister on his wireless phone, telling him that customers are there, angry, waiting on him. Every one of these calls has turned out to be false, as my husband has talked on the phone to the customer and actually sold them service with them being very pleased.
She has also begun complaining to her manager in the retailer that Mister is “interrupting her sales”, when in fact, she has neglected to serve her customers (has been standing around talking to other employees) and has missed opportunity to engage with her customers, so my husband has intercepted them first. He has helped them with their satellite needs and often sold them not only his product, but also retail product as well.
This woman had a uber-woman-drama meltdown the other day to her manager and told him that “she was so upset by what my Mister did to ‘interrupt’ her sale, that she “just wanted to go home for the whole day!’ Puhleese.
Drama, drama, and more drama. She has engaged a man in the store to begin complaining about my husband to the manager as well.
Mister did talk to the manager yesterday and quell the storm, but he frankly just wants these women to stay the heck away from him. They do not. They pick fights. They start drama. They lie. They create things that do not exist. They manipulate and connive and destroy professional relationships.
This has to stop.
What’s a man to do? (legally without getting sued, of course)..
All advice is welcome.